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My husband has been out of work for 5 months and h...

2009-11-21T07:00:26.086-08:00

My husband has been out of work for 5 months and his self-esteem issues right now? Oh. My. Goodness. The economy sucks right now and there are no jobs out there for him, etc. but....he doesn't care, he thinks he is a loser. A guy thing, for sure. And really difficult to deal with. Peace.

Ladies--it's hard-wird into men that they are ...

2009-11-20T10:10:15.940-08:00

Ladies--it's hard-wird into men that they are the provider. The hunter, if you will. we may be in the 21st century, but we still have caveman mentalities.

Men's self-worth seems to be connected to their job, while women's seems to be connected to their families and home. I know it sucks for us gals to have to nurse their egos, but it's really not that bad. I lost my husband almost 4 years ago. A large part of his depression was the loss of his job of 31 years when a new owner took over the magazine he worked for. I did the best I could to help him, but...

Back in the winter, a lot of people at my company ...

2009-11-20T07:11:49.879-08:00

Back in the winter, a lot of people at my company grumbled when our raises were considerably less than usual, but I'm with you: folks should be THRILLED they've even still got a job in this economy, let alone a raise!

As for men and their need to be the breadwinner, I don't know WHY in this day and age, when women fight so hard to be equal, men are still bothered when their gal makes more money than they do. It's some really old-fashioned notion that just won't go away and while I admire that in a man, it also makes me sad for them. It's not a competition, and our focus should be on what's best for our families as a whole... which is, of course, how women think. But for men, it's a different ballgame and I doubt it ever changes.

We have this same issue. My husband was injured ...

2009-11-20T06:32:01.189-08:00

We have this same issue. My husband was injured at work four yaers ago, and was deemed "medically disabled" from that profession. A profession he has worked in his entire adult life.

Now he is back in college, and working at a job he semi-likes at about 1/4 of what he used to make. I have always had a well-paying job, but have now become the breadwinner of the house.

I don't think it matters, because it's OUR money, right?

Talk about timing! I posted just today about an a...

2009-11-20T01:11:56.614-08:00

Talk about timing! I posted just today about an argument I got into with Jason, and a situation similar to this was a huge part of the discussion. He's in the middle of a job transition/career transition, but the time it's taken to really focus on that and decide what was going to happen and how it was going to happen has been REALLY hard on us. Gah!

I have to remind myself that he wants it and is working to get there, but I need patience. Something I'm definitely short on.

Sounds like a good breakthrough for you guys. Also, HUGE congrats on the raise!!! I have no doubt it's well deserved.

I KNOW he wants to match my salary or at least come close to it. Right now, at this moment, it's not happening. And I'm really tired.