tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839901864916285975.post4673718913284357765..comments2024-03-26T04:57:50.203-07:00Comments on Stephanie Snowe: The Blog!: Sometimes, I wonder.Stephhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10413516850782368606noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839901864916285975.post-1105366872702686322009-10-16T12:51:51.090-07:002009-10-16T12:51:51.090-07:00I should probably stop at simply saying, "AGR...I should probably stop at simply saying, "AGREE!" Otherwise, I could babble on about this for hours. <br /><br />I am pretty sure God didn't look down and say, "Hmmm... that lady there she needs a disabled child. Her other one is functioning too well." I am also reasonably sure God didn't say, "You know what would be fun? If I make this one deaf, have a kidney disorder that causes A LOT OF PAIN, and on top of that slap on a metabolic disorder that makes food pretty much poison her! Yay for me! That was good times!" Those things. They just happened. Not for a reason. Because even if there was some reason I deserved it (I do curse a lot..although always in foreign languages in front of the kiddies), please tell me some good reason my five year old must go through everything she has been through?Triciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10715187918892679058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839901864916285975.post-16172276803040575342009-10-15T17:40:39.124-07:002009-10-15T17:40:39.124-07:00I happened to read Jessica's comment and laugh...I happened to read Jessica's comment and laughed to myself a bit, because blaming Eve is what my Mom does - for cramps, for menopause, for anything female-specific. I agree that you should tack your sorrows onto that too, maybe she can carry some of the burden. {hugs!}Jenskihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05368202166540468533noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839901864916285975.post-47771535930976926422009-10-14T14:15:51.891-07:002009-10-14T14:15:51.891-07:00I don't like that either. "God chose you ...I don't like that either. "God chose you to be TC's Mom". Okay God, I don't think my son having autism is something I asked for OR something you should have given me but it is what it is.kristihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17987700142247888708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839901864916285975.post-88996623486463762782009-10-14T11:42:55.987-07:002009-10-14T11:42:55.987-07:00I believe God (or whatever entity people believe i...I believe God (or whatever entity people believe in) gave us free will which means his plan isnt to punish and reward for stuff done. I know it sounds simple, but shit happens to good people. At least this is how I see things.<br /><br />Shit happens to my sis and I all the time but my bro has all the "luck". I don't think he is a better person than we are and def don't hold the "luck" against him so to speak. <br /><br />Hugs to you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839901864916285975.post-13671560682810939212009-10-14T09:29:32.291-07:002009-10-14T09:29:32.291-07:00I don't want to say that I know how you feel, ...I don't want to say that I know how you feel, because I don't... but I do know what you are talking about when you talk about the things people say. Two years ago my boyfriend died... he was an alcoholic. People told me that it was better off this way. Ummmm... no it's not. Then I was lucky enough to meet someone awesome and we got pregnant right away. My baby died two days before I delivered her. People keep telling me that it's God's will. That doesn't help me and it doesn't make me feel any better about losing either of the lives I lost. I would rather have people say nothing to me.Kikihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08779467041953035046noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839901864916285975.post-19164690845055201492009-10-14T08:57:51.869-07:002009-10-14T08:57:51.869-07:00One of the things I've been praying through a ...One of the things I've been praying through a tough time lately (hope it helps you):<br /><br />God, I know you didn't plan this, but it doesn't take you by surprise, either. You can somehow use this for good even though I can't see how right now. All I know is it hurts.marcinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839901864916285975.post-73752571348649732312009-10-14T07:18:15.346-07:002009-10-14T07:18:15.346-07:00I can't pretend to know what you're going ...I can't pretend to know what you're going through right now. But I want you to know that I love you and you're in my thoughts. xoxoBexterrifichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13406359945023912693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839901864916285975.post-29876348278223001502009-10-14T05:15:39.281-07:002009-10-14T05:15:39.281-07:00Sorry, i meant good instead of goof...and on that ...Sorry, i meant good instead of goof...and on that same note...i am sure it isn't all feeling like He has made something good out of it yet, so don't think i meant you must feel all fuzzy and warm inside like all is better by that statement either, it will be a process as i remember it...It has been around 12 years since we lost Christopher some days i see the sad of it all and other days i will meet a stranger that he knew somehow and they will share something he did and how is death totally changed their life...so-none of us could ever understand it all in my opinion.kristinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10928986209153675287noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839901864916285975.post-87856866635809163762009-10-14T05:07:17.362-07:002009-10-14T05:07:17.362-07:00I certainly don't want to pretend i am your be...I certainly don't want to pretend i am your best friend and have all the answers, but i am so sorry about all you are going through...I have had similar emotions after having lost my only brother and two miscarriages in between our 14 year old and 2 1/2 yr. old...so much doesn't make sense in this world. I am so thrilled that you do know our Dad (God) and that His Spirit can give you the comfort that only He can-the rest of us are just human and can't fill that void we feel when these things happen. So many of the folks before me have mentioned a lot of what i trust toward the matter so i won't repeat it, but know you are loved and you have many friends who do care and are sometimes the tangible mouth to encourage, the arms to hug ya with here on earth...just allow yourself to feel and cry, scream, cuss and be held by the One who holds the best-He will not fail you- a promise He makes is never broken and even the yuckiest, most horrible things in life-He can scoop up and form it into something goof for those that love Him don't ya think? I am asking Him to show this to you and to confirm to you that He did not plan for bad to happen to any of us. Lifting you up lady...kristinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10928986209153675287noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839901864916285975.post-71290760013737771882009-10-14T03:38:01.352-07:002009-10-14T03:38:01.352-07:00It wasn't me that said it, was it? Damn. Sound...It wasn't me that said it, was it? Damn. Sounds like something I would say, unfortunately.. hangs head..Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04474928571871603804noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839901864916285975.post-29904945427386807382009-10-13T23:20:10.867-07:002009-10-13T23:20:10.867-07:00Amen sister!
As the child of missionaries who g...Amen sister! <br /><br />As the child of missionaries who grew up overseas, and has had my share of hard "life lessons" (aka being raped at 14, having my 24 yr old brother die on my 20th b'day, having my husband of almost 11 yrs just pack his stuff up while I was on a 3 day business trip - the same one I was working full time to put through grad school, then finally meeting the man of my dreams who has an ex-wife who I see DAILY!!! and a 19 yr old daughter, and 1 miscarriage after finally wanting a child . . .) I can honestly say that the God I know to exist and who infinitely loves me, grieved just as much as I did when I was hurting through these tragedies. He was my comfort and guidance, but I also felt the deep deep sense that he did NOT want these painful things for me.<br /><br />As much as I too don't understand all of it, the only thing I do know is that He loves me. That, and a lot of the time, PEOPLE just get it flat out WRONG!<br /><br />BTW, I am 40 and we have resumed trying for that baby of mine.<br /><br />Hugs and more hugs,<br />HollyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839901864916285975.post-70743794404209474222009-10-13T21:51:36.568-07:002009-10-13T21:51:36.568-07:00It is really, really hard to understand. I get so ...It is really, really hard to understand. I get so furious sometimes thinking about how uneven the distribution of suffering is. I don't understand why some people get crapped on. I keep hearing about people my age, my high school classmates, who have died of cancer or who are battling it. Good people like you who'd be great parents who struggle to get pregnant or with miscarriage/pregnancy loss while crackheads pop out kids who'll be neglected and turn into crackheads themselves. <br /><br />If you figure out the answer to all this, PLEASE let me know. <br /><br />Meanwhile I'll continue to hope that you are able to get what you want the most. ((HUGS))Dawn~a~Bonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03579654260254491401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839901864916285975.post-48272486627785580632009-10-13T21:33:43.209-07:002009-10-13T21:33:43.209-07:00In times of suffering I always remember that Jesus...In times of suffering I always remember that Jesus was "a man of sorrows" and he suffered greatly on this earth. And he was God! The only thing, as people of faith, that we can hold on to is that this place, this strife, this sadness, this anguish, this pain, is not our true home. It is not what God wants for us, nor what he ultimately has in store for us. This is finite, and eternity is beautiful. Hang in there, just a little bit longer. Jesus will see you through.<br /><br />With my prayers....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839901864916285975.post-62706671776363234872009-10-13T20:25:16.904-07:002009-10-13T20:25:16.904-07:00I'm not sure about all the god stuff, but than...I'm not sure about all the god stuff, but thank you for sharing your path with us. It's good food for new thoughts.ellehttp://domesticoblivion.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839901864916285975.post-9804570636801320172009-10-13T20:08:18.318-07:002009-10-13T20:08:18.318-07:00Infertility sucks. I totally agree with you on th...Infertility sucks. I totally agree with you on that. I've found that who gets to have babies and who doesn't seems to be one of the most unfair parts of life. I have no answers. In my few years on this earth, I'm finding that the hard times make heaven seem more awesome. No tears, no suffering, no pain. I long for that.<br />May you receive the desires of your heart, soon.eatmoresmoreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01865421055231266232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839901864916285975.post-58118403902469395682009-10-13T20:07:01.684-07:002009-10-13T20:07:01.684-07:00I'm tight with Jesus too. But I do have to sa...I'm tight with Jesus too. But I do have to say I have no clue why He lets some things happen or not happen. I've been having a hard time with this myself. Things have been so much crap and getting crappier for so long I don't know what to think, feel, believe, etc.<br /><br />When I said I would pray for you, I was serious. I really hope He says yes.Bethanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03695662344180959776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839901864916285975.post-40566677260302714902009-10-13T19:58:58.774-07:002009-10-13T19:58:58.774-07:00I don't like to hear that "everything hap...I don't like to hear that "everything happens for a reason" crap either.<br /><br />Peace.mythoughtsonthathttp://mythoughtsonthat.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839901864916285975.post-86735582805733095042009-10-13T17:56:23.920-07:002009-10-13T17:56:23.920-07:00I'm a Christian too. We're living in a fal...I'm a Christian too. We're living in a fallen world with sin allowed to have sway. I believe there is an evil force or *Satan* who wants to turn God's people away from God. How? He strikes us with illness, hardships, and death...anything that will cause us to blame God for the evil of the devil. <br /><br />I do believe sometimes God intervenes and we get our Miracles. I pray that you receive your heart desire, a baby! Whatever is blocking the conception...I hope it is removed.<br /><br />I'm not trying to be preachy, I know not everyone shares my beliefs, but I did want to give my opinion...it's not meant to be hurtful in any way.<br /><br />As far as ppl saying things that downplay your situation, I dunno, but I've had that happen to me too, but regarding another matter. I'm sorry it happens. {{{hugs}}}<br /><br />~ PatriciaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839901864916285975.post-48243709943136326802009-10-13T17:20:26.951-07:002009-10-13T17:20:26.951-07:00You might like this post by another excellent blog...You might like this post by another excellent blogger on the same topic. She's an athiest, so her perspective is a little different, but still worth a read.<br /><br />http://motherhoodandotherriskyendeavors.blogspot.com/2009_04_01_archive.htmlAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839901864916285975.post-47154659684536550392009-10-13T17:18:11.271-07:002009-10-13T17:18:11.271-07:00I also wanted a baby so badly I would have done an...I also wanted a baby so badly I would have done anything. I did have a child years ago probably not the plan God had for my life. He has never been able to hold a job down for more than a few months at a time because of substance abuse issues. I cry every night not knowing if I will hear your child is dead. He relates to me often "I am a loser, I wish I had never been born" at time I wish he had not been born either. Maybe it is God's plan for you not to have anymore children. I don't know. I do know one thing for a fact once you bring a child into this world you never stop worrying until the day of your death. Consider this my child.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839901864916285975.post-8709899552062124682009-10-13T15:08:38.472-07:002009-10-13T15:08:38.472-07:00I've struggled with this same exact thing. My ...I've struggled with this same exact thing. My biggest issue is: if I wasn't meant to understand God, how exactly am I supposed to perceive Him?<br /><br />It's a hard concept to accept. Faith is all I have to fall back on (and I thank God for it everyday).David.https://www.blogger.com/profile/13397538216171495673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839901864916285975.post-15341362794934731952009-10-13T15:07:21.743-07:002009-10-13T15:07:21.743-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.David.https://www.blogger.com/profile/13397538216171495673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839901864916285975.post-65732922507156380502009-10-13T15:04:14.158-07:002009-10-13T15:04:14.158-07:00preach it sister.
People feel uncomfortable with ...preach it sister.<br /><br />People feel uncomfortable with our pain and fill the air space by saying something stupid... unintentional... but still stupid. <br /><br />You should just hear the things people say to me about my special needs son and how it is probably all my fault anyway. <br /><br />jerks.<br /><br />Sometimes silence really is the best way to go people. <br /><br />Hugs to you.Tarasviewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04750633944607986537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839901864916285975.post-69845688281405466562009-10-13T14:55:58.731-07:002009-10-13T14:55:58.731-07:00wow Kimberly! very well said...
so i will just s...wow Kimberly! very well said...<br /><br />so i will just say DITTO!PaintedPromisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05771284709068251348noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839901864916285975.post-59342542603058958992009-10-13T14:55:54.224-07:002009-10-13T14:55:54.224-07:00Sadly, I do believe there are things we are not me...Sadly, I do believe there are things we are not meant to understand. By faith, we're supposed to trust that things are "going according to plan". You never know - maybe all of this <i>is</i> part of some master plan, and when it finally does happen for you - because I sincerely believe <i>it will</i> - it will be even better and you'll be even happier because of how hard it was to get there in the first place.<br /><br />Does that even make sense?<br /><br />My prayers are always with you. It's going to happen. I feel it. Just hang in there, love.Christina Berryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00940473588497266871noreply@blogger.com