Monday, August 23, 2010

Not a noun, but a verb.

Someone once said,

“You don't marry someone you can live with, you marry the person who you cannot live without.”

I'm struggling with whether or not that's true.

Because, quite honestly, I think I'm okay by myself. I lived twenty-seven years not being married to Jason and I was pretty cool. I can pay all my bills by myself. I can juggle three people's schedules at the same time and still have time to make everyone dinner. I'm good. I got this.

So I have to believe that quote is not true. Not on that level anyway.

I can, I TOTALLY can, live without Jason.

I don't want too, though.

I don't know if it's that simple.

But I don't think it's that hard, either. I think it's way less hard than I used to think.


Jenski said...

I want to say it's at the end of "Rumor has it" when Jennifer Aniston says just what you are..."I can live without you, I just don't want to."

Bethany said...

On some levels, it is that simple.

I've said the same thing to more than once. I married the big guy when I was 32, I lived a life without him and could do it again. Now that he's sick I realize how much I don't want to do that. I don't want to live with the bullshit we had the few years before he got sick but I'll take a better version of it. Does this make any sense to you? I'm not sure it even makes sense to me.

Maui Mamma said...

tonight I so get that. Hubs went hunting and left me to hold to down th fort. He claims he doesn't have service, which funny his buddy does. and then tonight my texts don't go through and his buddy turned off his phone after talking to his wife when mine didn't answer the phone. I bet his phone is off too. I can be alone and better off tonight.

diane rene said...

gosh girl! I have had this conversation so many times - even WITH hubby.
He has been married and divorced, his feeling is, he would love to avoid another divorce, but he knows it's not the end of the world.
I did the pregnant and child before settling down scenario. I know there are worse things in life than being a single mom.
we both know we CAN be fine alone, but we really enjoy each other and think things are pretty darn cool the way they are.
if it ain't broke, don't fix it.

I do have to add that a friend recently told us (after a pretty nasty divorce) that seeing hubby and I together makes him consider marrying again (in the distant future, but at least he considers it). as cornball as it sounds, I figure hubby and I must be doing something right ... even if it's just putting on a good show for the world ;0)

Lauren said...

Personally I think to make a relationship successful, both parties must come as complete, independent people. I love my husband dearly-he is a huge help and an amazing person, but I take pride in knowing that, Godforbid, something should happen to him..I would still be okay.

Relationships should be based on want, not need...I want to spend every waking moment with my husband, but I don't NEED to.

Love the post. (Obviously) something I think about a lot!