Sunday, January 22, 2012

Hey...what's goin' on...

Marvin Gaye. I know, right?

This has been a weird year so far. Yes I know it just started.

My husband is living in North Carolina now.

-We are still married.
-I am still madly in love with him and his mad towel-folding skillz.
-He is still madly in love with me and my obsessive lust for Diet Pepsi and horrible television.

We've been discussing moving for a long time. The reasons behind this are many, and not appropriate for a public forum. I'll just say that I've been hit pretty hard with the whole "what's really important in life" thing, and I tend to take heed when that happens.

Jason was laid off in October. We made the final decision then. My job is just going to be my job no matter where I live and he got a new job in North Carolina, getting out of the horrible field that crushed his soul for so many years. He seems...well, more like the man I fell in love with. Which is awesome.

Not awesome? He lives six hours away right now.

If you've read the news at any point in the last couple of years, you are probably aware the housing market? Blows goats. It's not as bad in our area, and my research indicated that houses typically stay on the market in our town for about 114 days. So we put in new floors, painted everything, made it all look sassy and lovely and put our first home together on the market.

Twenty-two days later? We got an offer.

A really great offer.

A, "We can't not take this" kind of offer.

So we did.

They want to close at the end of February. I cried about telling my children they have to leave their 8th grade year with only a few months left, but they were amazing. My son was like, "FINALLY!" and my daughter, who is in her school play and has been practicing diligently and who is now going to have to miss it, placed her hand on my leg and said, "You know what mom? It's going to be okay. In this market, you have to take a good offer like that." Which, in case there is any doubt, made me cry even harder.

I'm pretty stressed.

I'm kind of scared.

I'm maybe a little sad.

But it's okay.

Well. It's not.

But it's going to be okay.



Kim said...

It IS going to be alright! I am so excited and happy for you! You are soooo ready for this new adventure. A new season in your family's life.

You go, Girl!

queenrandom said...

Not only is it going to be ok, but it is going to be AWESOME. I promise.

Jenski said...

It's going to be awesome and scary. But mostly awesome. And wonderful that as a family you are all on board and don't have the stress of the House That Won't Sell!!!!

velocibadgergirl said...

It's going to be BETTER than okay…it might take a little bit of time, but it's going to rock, I promise :)

Lizi said...

Your kids are way to awesome and beyond their years for it to not be okay. I think you have already crossed a major hurdle. Congratulations!!!

Lizi said...

Your kids are way to awesome and beyond their years in maturity for it to not be okay. Congratulations!!!

Jill said...

go with your heart and your gut. we attempted to buy a place (under extreme duress as I was 9 months pregnant). We rented it for a week and moved our stuff in. Every time we opened the windows, 100s of bugs came in (not kidding), even through/around screens on the INSIDE. The wooden floors hurt my feet, and I go barefoot all the time. We were due to sign the papers and walked the f*** away and said basically, screw you. That probably doesn't make you feel any better, but I doubt you'd take advantage of people under that kind of duress. You're awesome like that. We should have known, every single time we wanted to look at it, they had to have several days advance notice. It was to clean the bugs up, I'm sure of it. Usually, an empty place you'd just use a combination to get in. The real estate agent had to have known, and he just blindly went along with it, trying for the sale. The jerk.

The moral of the story is that it was NOT where we belonged. That much is obvious. 18 months later, we had a brand new house on gorgeous property, found a wonderful church, and much closer to my husband's work. It's like we are exactly where we are supposed to be. We'd have never been happy in that other place. I was sorry we had to reneg on the offer, but honestly, it was the best thing that ever happened to us. The best decision we ever made. We were not and could not have been happy there, and now we are (well maybe not blissful), very very happy and fitting in.

follow your heart and your gut.

Crystal from My Ramblings said...

Its going to be OK! Are you excited to be moving back to NC? What part?

Principled Slut said...

It's going to be ok many times over. When the stress is almost too much, you just look at all of the good things as road signs to remind you that you're headed the right way. I find that perspective always gives me strength.

*hugs* as you peer through the fog for the light at the end of the tunnel.

Ginger said...

It is going to be okay! I believe that things happen and work out for a reason. Your house sold in 22 days in a really crappy market...that means means that this is exactly what was meant to happen at exactly this moment for your family.

Christina Berry said...

Everything happens for a reason, and I really believe it's all part of God's plan for you and your family. Be open to it. I don't blame you for being worried or scared, but just go with it. I think this will be a great thing for your family.

Bethany said...

Totally okay, AWESOME even!

So glad Jason is more like himself, glad you got an offer you couldn't refuse, so glad your kids are so fantastic!

This is going to be great!

Anonymous said...

IT'S GOING TO BE OKAY!! With love from a random stranger in Toronto who loves reading your blog. ( really is! Trust. Faith.)

Anonymous said...

Not only is it going to be ok....its going to be amazing!!! So excited for you and your family as you move on to the next chapter.

Congrats to Jason on the new job and congrats to you guys for getting your house sold in record time!!

Onward and upward!!


Bexterrific said...

It's SO going to be ok! It's going to be great! Moving is horrible and stressful - but you are one of the toughest cookies I know. You're gonna be just fine. And I can come visit! YAY! xoxoxo

Reb said...

What good luck! You get to have a new, exciting (and a tad scary) adventure with the people you love. Life is all about moving forward-you are just about ready to make a big leap :) So cool!

Anonymous said...

You will worry, the kids will be nervous but it will be fine! We moved to a new school a few years ago and you would never know that they were "new". Kids are great. Get them involved in activities as soon as you can. That helped alot with our two. Good luck.

tiffany said...

ConGRATS!!!! This will be adventurous :) we moved from my husbands home town 5 years ago to Dallas Tx where we have no relatives and while it can be lonely sometimes it also has made for a happier family here most of the time! I wish you only the best !! and how exciting to be house hunting!

Boriqua said...

It's going to be much better than OK. :)