One of the primary "rules" of blogging is to not apologize when you don't blog for a few days. So I'm not apologizing, okay? No one take this as an apology because it's totally not.
I'm not dead. My heart is just elsewhere right now. Thus, something that doesn't mean a whole lot in my day-to-day life follows. Enjoy.
Do you guys watch this Teen Mom show? Because it's starting to really grind my gears SO BAD. Not bad enough to stop watching it, apparently. But still. SO. BAD.
So this girl, Amber? Just beats the crap out of her boyfriend Gary. Observe:
Now, I don't know this person in real life, but clearly? Girlfriend has some issues that need to be addressed. I say that both without being judgey about her situation and also without any knowledge of a "good" reason to haul off and beat the crap out of someone much larger than you. I'm just saying.
Do I think Amber is wrong for hitting her boyfriend Gary? Yes I do. I really, sincerely hope she gets some help. I don't think she's a bad person, I think she's just out of control with her anger. And, because of her really dramatic weight-loss, I fear she might be taking some drugs that are not of the legal variety. And there is a baby, a really beautiful baby, in that house. That does not need to see her parents fight and scream at each other. It's very sad.
But what I'm most sad about is that this is on television. That it's okay to show a woman hit a man. And I know she looks small, but when she hit him on the last episode? Dude's head bounced off the wall. She tried to kick him down the stairs. I literally cried when I saw this...I couldn't believe this was on my t.v.
And you know what?
If Gary was the one hitting Amber? It wouldn't be on t.v. He'd be in jail and everyone would be super pissed off at him.
It's not okay because she's a girl.
It's not okay because he's bigger than her.
It's not okay because he "provokes" her (and again, I fail to see anything he's ever done, even if he's a complete douche, that warrants her knocking him around the way she does).
I was watching The Maury Show the other day (I know. Shut up) and this woman found out her husband or boyfriend or baby's daddy or whatever was cheating on her and she flew out of her seat in a rage and began wailing on him before the security guard could catch her. The audience cheered. Loudly.
Now, I guarantee you that if a man found out his wife was cheating on him and jumped up and started beating the crap out of her, his ass would be hauled off to county. She'd probably bail him out (or Maury would. He's generous like that) but still. He'd go to jail.
Not that Maury is the epitome of class or anything and I think you pretty much know what you're getting into when you go on that particular program, but I still find the whole thing disturbing. It's no less domestic violence when it happens to a man.
I hope this couple gets the help they need. But make no mistake. This is happening in homes all over this country just with different players. I worry, almost obsessively, about the little girl living in the midst of this, but I know there are thousands of kids living with this, and worse. They aren't on television, but they're out there.
We need to stop acting like this isn't domestic violence because he's a man. It's not fair and it's not right and I am horrified that it's being portrayed this way.
Shame on you, MTV. For reals.