I don't think a man and a woman (or a woman and a woman or a man and a man, if that's your thing) can have unconditional love for each other. I just don't.
This is an unpopular theory among many people (mostly, newlyweds). I get that. But I just don't see how it's possible. Maybe I'm wrong. I'm wrong about a lot of things, I admit. So tell me if you think I am (yeah right, like I even have to ask for that).
The way I see it is...I don't have to love anyone. I mean, my heart won't allow me not to love my children. Not only because they kick so much ass but also because something just changed me when I had them and they became far more important to me than anything on the planet. Even Diet Pepsi. And I really love Diet Pepsi. A lot.
But anyone else I love? I think it's a choice. I really do.
I think, honestly, it's even unreasonable to promise unconditional love in marriage vows. Like, I'm thinking Elizabeth Edwards today is going "You know? If you cared all that deeply about me you would have KEPT IT IN YOUR PANTS". I could be totally wrong, but I'm kind of betting she thinks that. I don't know how it's possible to have unconditional love when someone betrays you with a tranny-looking woman, has a child with her and then lies to your face about. WHILE YOU ARE DYING WITH CANCER.
Again, maybe that's just me. But I don't see it.
And you know...had he just sacked up and admitted it? I really wouldn't hate him so much. People are human and people make mistakes. But he not only did it, he lied about it. A LOT. TO EVERYONE. And that's not cool.
I also don't see how you can continue to love someone who has a drug addiction and puts your children at risk or someone who beats the crap out of you all the time. I don't see how your love for someone can overcome those things.
Honestly, I don't see how your love for someone can overcome things like leaving your pants on the floor instead of putting them in the laundry bin. But I'm jaded. I don't think love conquers all.
I think it's a choice. And I think you either make it every day or you don't.