Monday, June 2, 2014

What I said today.

"I cannot fathom the idea that people can make a decision to get pregnant, have sex and then actually get pregnant. I have literally no idea what it's like to have that kind of control over your own fertility. It must be amazing. Like unicorns."



Because, yeah. I don't understand this.

I don't think I ask for much in this life, I really don't. I just always wanted to be able to understand this.

8 comments:

Michelle Hanway said...

blows my mind too. "happened on the first try.." oh go fork yourselves. srsly.

Jana Frerichs said...

Oh my gosh! I have thought this so many times. It must be amazing to be able to do that.

Luba Gilpatric said...

Why the animosity about planning for your children/family? It did not happen on the first try but why should I feel guilty that my and my husbands reproductive system works?

We started trying in August and got pregnant in Early December.

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Dawn said...

Luba, you shouldn't feel guilty at all. And I didn't read this blog as animosity in any way.

It's just that, for those of us suffering from infertility and/or repeat pregnancy loss - the idea that someone can decide they're going to have a baby, actually get pregnant, see the positive test, and expect that an actual baby will result - it's just foreign. When I see a positive test, the result I've gotten so far has usually been a miscarriage. That's just my reality. The concept of having a different reality - a reality where a positive test means a baby even MOST of the time - it seems like a dream world, like a fantasy.

You shouldn't feel guilty, at all, but please do understand that for some of us what came easily for you is very difficult, if not absolutely impossible.

Anonymous said...

@Luba that's really nice for you, but this blogger has written for years about her struggles with secondary infertility and your remark is rude. I didn't see anywhere she wrote about animosity toward anyone and no one is saying you should feel guilty because this isn't about you and your baby.

Stephanie I read this as very heartfelt and eve though I do not have the struggles you have with getting pregnant there are plenty of things I can't really understand and would like to. Thank you for writing this.

Lizi said...

agreed! thank you stephanie. i always appreciate your heartfelt posts. i feel your pain and can totally relate.

Lizi said...

agreed! thank you stephanie. i always appreciate your heartfelt posts. i feel your pain and can totally relate.