"I cannot fathom the idea that people can make a decision to get pregnant, have sex and then actually get pregnant. I have literally no idea what it's like to have that kind of control over your own fertility. It must be amazing. Like unicorns."
Because, yeah. I don't understand this.
I don't think I ask for much in this life, I really don't. I just always wanted to be able to understand this.
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blows my mind too. "happened on the first try.." oh go fork yourselves. srsly.
Oh my gosh! I have thought this so many times. It must be amazing to be able to do that.
Why the animosity about planning for your children/family? It did not happen on the first try but why should I feel guilty that my and my husbands reproductive system works?
We started trying in August and got pregnant in Early December.
Luba, you shouldn't feel guilty at all. And I didn't read this blog as animosity in any way.
It's just that, for those of us suffering from infertility and/or repeat pregnancy loss - the idea that someone can decide they're going to have a baby, actually get pregnant, see the positive test, and expect that an actual baby will result - it's just foreign. When I see a positive test, the result I've gotten so far has usually been a miscarriage. That's just my reality. The concept of having a different reality - a reality where a positive test means a baby even MOST of the time - it seems like a dream world, like a fantasy.
You shouldn't feel guilty, at all, but please do understand that for some of us what came easily for you is very difficult, if not absolutely impossible.
@Luba that's really nice for you, but this blogger has written for years about her struggles with secondary infertility and your remark is rude. I didn't see anywhere she wrote about animosity toward anyone and no one is saying you should feel guilty because this isn't about you and your baby.
Stephanie I read this as very heartfelt and eve though I do not have the struggles you have with getting pregnant there are plenty of things I can't really understand and would like to. Thank you for writing this.
agreed! thank you stephanie. i always appreciate your heartfelt posts. i feel your pain and can totally relate.
agreed! thank you stephanie. i always appreciate your heartfelt posts. i feel your pain and can totally relate.
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